The Evil Uterus or The Decisions that Haunt Me

Let me tell you a story.

When I was a company commander, we gave an article 15 to a soldier for smoking pot. So what, right?

She was pregnant. It was her third offense of smoking pot while she was pregnant. (we’ve been in the process of throwing her out for a while. It’s a long story.).

We all know that smoking regular cigarettes during pregnancy is bad. Smoking pot is worse. Not just for mom but for baby. But when we called child protective services, I was basically told there was nothing they could do, not even open a case, because the child had not been born yet.

I wanted to act to protect this unborn child and could not because to do so set a dangerous precedent about whether mom’s life or the baby’s life was more important. While I may have wanted to tie her down and slap her silly, there was nothing I could do. Nothing.

Why am I telling you this? Because the war against my uterus is heating up. Ladies, I bet you had no idea your uterus was such a hot bed of evil did you? Legislatures all over the country are taking away the right to health care. The right for you to make basic decisions about your health care.

And yet, I wanted to make some pretty basic decisions about this young woman life. Against her will.

How is my wanting to make a decision any different than what these legislatures are doing when they pass bills saying that pregnancy now begins two weeks prior to conception. Or that birth control is murder.

Why are these the questions that keep me up at night? Why am I lying awake, wanting to put a young woman behind bars because she’s smoking pot and causing harm to a child that I will have no stake in? It’s not my kid, it’s not my body, it’s not my family.

And yet, this decision haunts me.

On the flip side, the legislative decisions being bandied about centering around my uterus enrage me. How are they different?

These are things I think about. This is what worries me. That my decisions are no different except in the scale of them.

3 comments for “The Evil Uterus or The Decisions that Haunt Me

  1. Angie M
    April 14, 2012 at 11:41 am

    I understand that you might be torn but you were trying to do right by that unborn baby. You are also right that the war against our uteruses is heating up. Is it because these schmucks are jealous that we can create life? Is it because they can't figure out what to do about the economy so they attack health care instead? I don't know. I just know that I'm worried but most of my social circle of friends and family seem to think I'm just being my feminist yankee self! Glad to know I'm not alone!

  2. April 11, 2012 at 11:11 am

    You're worrying over a specific case. The legislation being passed seems more like a blanket judgement with no regard for specific circumstances. Just a thought…

  3. April 11, 2012 at 11:08 am

    Jess–I agree. This is not an easy decision. It's one of those places where there is no good answer.

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